Empaths and Highly Sensitive People: Anatomy and Survival Tips

Empaths and HSP terms are often interchangeable and are very related in meaning.
I am both and I’ll give my take on each below.

HSP – Highly Sensitive People have inbornly sensitive, highly mobile type of psyche. It’s a special peculiarity of nervous system, and a very high energy sensitivity.
Where people have five normal senses, HSP have extra detectors and antennas attached to their head… I’m not serious, of course, that’s just how it feels ;)
They have heightened senses and a “zoomed in” perception of whatever’s happening around.
They not only receive information about and from their environment through the set of senses, but also quite keenly sense the energetic weaving of things around.

HSP are very impressionable people and they experience stronger emotional reactions to things that don’t specifically bother or impress others (none HSP).
Although, HSP’s reactions to stimuli are usually directed inwards, which makes them sort of worn out by their own emotions at the end of the day.

HSP have keen detectors to whatever’s going on around and with others around them and pick a lot of unnecessary stuff on themselves – they often have no “filters”. What impresses them also manages to affect them greatly. They have no tolerance to violence, abuse and suffering of others.

HSP are extremely sensitive to energies, feelings and moods in environment.
They get easily overwhelmed and tired from mixture of energies and information, and seek to escape loud noises, intense events and drama-oriented people whenever they can.

It is important to understand that there is nothing wrong with being (HS) Highly Sensitive.
Most HSP remember having been this way all their life, so it’s not any issue to cure.
HSP should simply be aware of their inborn sensitivity and learn to adjust their emotional reactions, personal boundaries and healthy lifestyle.
They simply need quite, harmonious environments, more rest and relaxation and quality personal space – even in marriage and in relationships!
Being an HSP, it is important to let your close ones understand your need for a lonely space.

If you have an HSP among your friends or family, please, allow them their lonely time when they want to be alone. This doesn’t mean they are selfish or weird, they simply need their cave to recoup.
On the good side, the more space they are given, the quicker they recharge and come back as fun.

HSP give lots of energy to other people and they feel literally “eaten alive” in highly negative environments.
HSP tend to recharge from the energy of nature, space, art and meditation, and they don’t “need” other people for energy exchange. People’s energy is not equally clean as the energy of nature and cosmos, and so anybody’s close proximity may feel pretty toxic to HSP.

HSP are a lot introvertial and even if they appear sociable, they often confess having to play “to fit” and “pretend normal”. Their favorite escape is a silent lounge in nature.

Normally, people are being instinctively drawn to HSP, because those are detached and heartfelt and hold a non-judgmental attitude. But HSP will try and avoid any spheres where competition, manipulation or co-dependency of sorts are involved.
They keep their inner circle really narrow and feel most comfortable to be managers of their own sociable and lonely times.

Being highly sensitive to others’ needs and problems, HSP can implement their natural talent by working in people-oriented professions. Given they learn to put their sensitivity to hand.
Quite too often they choose “lonely” creative professions, working online, drawing or writing – this way they can give something to others without the need to give themselves.

Empaths – empathy is an inborn ability to feel the feelings of others.
Empathic people (empaths) understand people’s, animals’ and even nature’s need as if they were their own.
Both HSP and empaths can literally “hear” what nature talks, what birds are tweeting, or what people next to them are thinking.
Empaths are naturally gifted human AND animals communicators – they understand thoughts and feelings of pets. Animals usually feel calmer and more reciprocating in presence of empaths.

If someone around empaths is ill or in pain, they can start to experience identical physical or emotional symptoms of people, or animals around them.
That even goes to watching TV – they get so involved with drama characters, or catastrophes of global news… For that reason, TV in empaths houses should better be always off, or be very selective with shows.
I find it pretty annoying to remove lots of dust from a bulky device that I almost never use )

Empaths empathize with everyone inadvertently.
‘Tuning in’ is just something they do without noticing.
Needless to say, they tend to take on oh so much of others’ emotional baggage .
They often feel tired, down or depleted for no apparent reason – it’s not their own stuff, they absorb it from others.
After talking with empath, people often feel re-energized, inspired and awesome, and empaths crawl home, feel carrying a world on their shoulders…
Solution: installing the filters.

Empathy is a beautiful gift in humans, but overactive empathy can feel like a curse.
For this reason, they may also choose to filter out their social interactions and seek time alone when they don’t have to communicate for a while.

Just like HSP, wellbeing of empath begins with understanding your inborn sensitivity and establishing healthy boundaries with everyone at home and and work.
Empaths also often choose to “be there for everyone” personally and professionally, and work helping people, either paid or at their free time. People often use and ab-use their kindness ;)

Empaths are people’s freaking magnet, whether they are open about it or trying to hide ))
Naturally, they become a delicious attraction to all sorts of emotionally vain, lonely or unstable people, who try to seek them out for contact, to the point of actual stalking.
Needless to say, empaths should be highly discerning with their contacts and get comfortable with saying a firm ‘No’ sometimes.

Empathy and sensitivity are beautiful gifts, they make people intuitive, talented natural healers, coaches and motivators. However, those gifts come with great responsibilities, and one of them is to take care of their own happiness and health.

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18 thoughts on “Empaths and Highly Sensitive People: Anatomy and Survival Tips

  1. Thank you so so much! Ppl have tried using metaphors about why things are drawn to me, how I never got y others don’t feel the level of empathy I do, how I’m so good with animals, why I can tell u it’s about to rain which I thought perfectly natural, didn’t wanna think too much when i asked others to try something for their headaches, cuz it’s hurting me, I don’t say that, they’re just surprised I knew…everything here explains it so simply. Yes, I will cry til I’m hyperventilating if I’m watching something like our troops forced ..”.wow! The analogies from 2 teams brought to my house shocked by all the voices recorded cuz if I ignore it which I’d like to do, makes it worse, the analogies were I was like a lighthouse beam,told them put the light out or at least install dimmer switch, they replied they couldn’t. Another made the analogy of how ppl r naturally drawn to me, said same as others are, so I try not to be interesting lol. But everything else you addressed is spot on! Thank you So Much!

    • And thank You for sharing this, it’s interesting to know what’s going on for other HSP and empaths out there.. Our lives and experiences are generally far beyond ordinary. Before, I’d usually spend a lot of time trying to understand certain happenings and phenomena that never seemed to happen to people I knew around.
      Just most important to not get energetically drained or over-invested. Sometimes it’s ok to just pull down the window blinders and recoup in silence and piece.

  2. Oh it’s been a long long time 😒Sofia. Your thoughts on HSP is indeed very educative. I have been quite a sensitive person but since past few years with some meditative practices the degree of sensitivity has reduced considerably
    😀

  3. Sofia, I’m just a common man, but I feel some connection with both personalities you describe here. I only only hold the magic of love in my heart and try to spread that liberally to all around me….., until someone abuses the effort. Good night, and may your tomorrows be filled with warmth and light. :)

  4. Wow Sofia! What a truly heartfelt, true-to-life post on HSP, Empaths and our unique personality traits and temperament. I for one can relate to the need to retreat to nature, seek solace in solitude and enjoy the benefits of being recharged and nourished for it. Like me, you must have had to come to terms with the inherent need for such “alone time”, even having to explain this need to family and friends who do not necessarily view the world as we do — but, of course, we become better after the experience, and much more attentive and emotionally available to others in this regard. Learning to appreciate the uniqueness in which we were created. Definitely relating to seeking solitude and creative space professions and hobbies! This is a wonderful article worth sharing with the world, and I am grateful for having reading this interesting and insightful piece. Have a lovely day my dear! :)

  5. Thank you for the article, was good to know I’m not the only sensitive person and there are others having the same burden. The description is indeed very accurate. My only concern is the part calling it a gift. I understand at some point it might seem like a romantic explanation but it doesn’t solve the problem. In fact this approach is dangerous because practicly says “say hi to your new friend – sensitivity. You were born together and will die together” which i don’t find productive.
    I’m pretty sure that you are not born like this and the problem is in the trauma of a sort that happened to you. In fact studying PTSD helped me to deal with my sensitivity. Not just accept it but work through it. I started my recovery about a year ago and now I can see that my sensitivity is significantly reduced. How did I do it? By finding a safe invironment and stabily and working through my childhood issues. It was very tough but every month it gets easier. I am at my last stages of recovery now and it was not a walk in a park. But it’s worth it. The books that helped me the most are : “8 keys to safe trauma recovery” by Babette Rothschild, “Children of trauma” by middleton and internet articles on building psychological boundaries.

    I know everybody is different but for those out there struggling with sensitivity my only advise is to work through it and it’s possible to win it.

  6. I can relate to mostly all of these.. I don’t have any energy to even try, but typing this makes everything count. I’m probably just some teenager who is seeking some sort of release; freedom from my chaos that I know I cause to myself to make me the way I am now; I know I seem selfish. Listening to this voice in my head over and over on repeat saying things I would never say out loud to anyone everyday all day because I do nothing, gets so exhausting–it’s almost impossible to understand myself. I’m a high school drop out; to define it so literal. Being “Highly Sensitive” it feels like having a gift only for yourself that you want to share but don’t have the energy to do anything about this ‘gift’ that’s so beautiful and understanding–but a curse at the same time because no one understands but yourself. Believing in the one voice that says out lout to myself is “everything’s going to be fine, it’ll all be over soon, it’ll pass, no disappointments today because if your mind!!! What is wrong with you? Stop the madness!!!” All these things that I say to myself to keep myself up and giving so much of my energy to others just makes everything seem too much for me to handle–that I even lose the energy to find someone to listen to me rant about nothing to ‘them’ but makes perfect sense to ME.. “There are two selves. One the world wants you to be; complient.. and the shadow. Ignore it and life is forever suffering.”

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