Telling a woman about his feelings seems like pleading officially guilty and condemning himself to a voluntary confinement.
In rare cases he may confess having some warm emotions towards a lady, but will immediately throw a disclaimer, saying that it doesn’t change anything.
Emo unavailable may fall in love – he is still a human, you know – but he will never admit he did, not even to himself. Besides, having special feelings for one woman does not interfere with his interest in others.
With some sort of insight you can know if your emo unavailable has feelings for you, even though he won’t say; or you can simply switch to a more available one that will have no problem reminding you each day how precious you are.
But check and see if the one that texts you ‘I miss you’ twenty times per day actually feels more captivating than the one that sends a couple of short emo-iconless messages per month.
What drags women towards a walking relationship-disasters?
Well, once again, emo unavailable is usually a roughly charming, self-standing and sophisticated male. And his ambiguity and emotional immaturity gives women the impression of mystery and challenge.
There is still so much more to discover about him – whether it’s a deep tremendous world of his unexplored emotions, or a trivial narcissism.
Besides, women are hunters too, you know, and way more persistent than male ones, once they set a target.
Plus a bit of maternal instinct and a tricky savior complex often have women directing their love and care at punky problematic individuals.
Having a lot of love inside, we are always willing to give it to those who might use some, even if they deny they do and are least worth it. Helping somebody open up to love becomes our personal assignment.
Emo unavailable is surely interested in kind beautiful women that are ready to counsel him for free, and give some extras, but is definitely not looking to discover a romantic love with them in return for their heart chakra energy and time investment.
Emo unavailable are not the ones that just need a little bit of love and patience – they are troubled, confused souls that in fact long for attention but muddle the feelings of those who give them any.
Most often they have emotional childhood traumas and unresolved issues with parents, or a history of unhappy relationships.
And some are simply born with no ability to experience empathy towards other people’s feelings whatsoever.
In any case, you are not the one to give him psychotherapy sessions and work on his personality deficiencies – even all your love won’t fix them.
You may be a rather insightful emphatic woman, but if you don’t have a license in counseling – don’t go in his forest. You might surely find your way around there and show him the way out of the wild (with you), but you will be surprised to discover that he already knows the way and he is just reluctant to leave. He is comfortable in his emotional covert.
If you invest your emotions, time and understanding into such man, he will probably get closer and interested to keep you around. But he will also learn that you have a high level of endurance and empathy towards anything he may pull, so he will happily settle with it and start taking your presence and insight for granted.
What you will get in return is emotionally unavailable brat on your hands – not letting you close in his life and not letting you go out of it – comfortably feeding on your energy and giving you audience whenever he feels like.
He may love to have you around because you love talking about his issues, adding value to his egocentric self. While with other women, who don’t care about his emotional mess, he has to talk about them instead.
That’s why he hates the idea of relationships to his guts – relationships are women-oriented and involve a lot of talking. Besides, relationships place him in a responsible position for a woman’s happiness. While he already has one prima to take care of – himself, and this is whose happiness he is working on.
Whether he be with you or not isn’t at all up to you – he must find his own benefits of being with you – whether it’s really an extraordinary attraction, subtle resemblance to his mother, or simply using you for something.
Emo unavailable is a relationship disaster, but as a human we mentioned above, he sure has some feelings as well, and is even able to get into quite a decent relationship, granted he gets some serious enlightenment from above that will conduce it.
But he will take a long painful thinking time deciding to do so, and measuring if a woman is really that special and is really worth the compromise.
If you choose to stick to emo unavailable, grab a huge backlog of patience along the way and try to detach from him emotionally as much as possible, while he is measuring on his decision.
Get a hobby, concentrate on your job and your self. And don’t tune out other interesting people that you might meet along that way – that might as well speed up his decision.
You miss him, and that’s understood. But don’t tie yourself to him and stay clunking the volumes off your heart chakra on that unavailable energy-stealer. Direct some of that love energy on your close people and your further self development, so that in case he decides to creep away into his jungles, you will not end up an emotional wreck yourself and have something interesting to fill your time with.